Ways To Be Happier In Your Relationship

 

Happiness in a relationship can be approached by five skills. Improvement in these skills is noticeable and measurable; progress can generate increased satisfaction quickly. Framing and sharing these skills to improve the quality of your relationship can enhance bonding.

1. Listening — really, truly listening.
Deep inside we all crave the undivided attention of someone who puts us first. True listening is a gift that nourishes and heals the other person. It’s not easy and it requires ignoring all the other distractions, which include our own feelings, thoughts and judgments.
Mirroring the other person’s posture, facial expression and vocal tone and rhythms will show your partner you are truly listening.

2. Asking for what you want.
This requires knowing what you want, which is not as obvious as it may seem. It also requires breaking a lot of bad habits, like assuming you should get what you want automatically, complaining about not getting it automatically or using a variety of manipulative strategies to get what you want without having to ask. The art of asking for what you want, in a way that makes it easy for the other person to give, is my definition of assertiveness.

3. Trying new things together.
Whether it is in the bedroom or on the ski slopes, this is a practice that can enrich any relationship. It will probably begin with one of you asking and the other listening. But after you try this “new thing” together, it is important for both to share their reactions so the dance of mutual learning can be a skill you build together.

4. Expressing gratitude towards each other.
Expressing and accepting gratitude is a natural for improving relationships, and not just your most intimate relationship. Making “thank you” sincere is an art involving creativity and empathy. Otherwise it can become a relatively meaningless routine; it can even be perceived as sarcastic. Because expressing gratitude, even silently, is uplifting. But finding ways to express it outwardly is even more important for your relationship.

5. Showing a lot of affection.
If done with creativity and empathy and learning will make the other one person feel good, loved and cared for. This does involve effort because you, when you are in a relationship, you should care enough to do it well. Of course, seek feedback to find out how the caring behavior worked for the other person.
These can be practiced throughout the lifetime of a relationship. I, personally, guarantee that you will both be happier.
source: yourtango.com

Top eleven reasons to quit smoking

Top eleven reasons to quit smoking

#1. You’re about to have a baby

#2. Someone close to you has cancer or just died from cancer

#3. You can’t afford it anymore

#4. You’re sick and tired of being sick and tired

#5. You just want to be healthy again

#6. You want your taste buds back!

#7. You want your life back!

#8. You want to be able to laugh hard without coughing

#9. You can’t seem to get the girlfriend or boyfriend you want because you’re a smoker

10. It’s the worst cologne in the world!

#11. You’re tired of your teeth being yellow

Signs You’re WIFE Material (According To Men)

We talked to 11 men about what makes a woman “wife material.” This is what they had to tell us.

1. You love in equal measure.
“It just boils down to love and attraction. I don’t mean any kind of romantic ideal, but like, proper love, where you love them so much that even when you’re mid-argument and super angry you still make sure they take an umbrella to work because it might rain. Any person who loves you that much in equal measure, and doesn’t mind risking a s*x-related hip fracture when you’re both in your 70s is definitely marriage material.”

2. You have insatiable intellectual curiosity.
“Basically, I need someone who will both challenge and complete me. I don’t want a fan or sycophant, nor do I want an adversary. The ideal woman will have an understanding of my strengths and weaknesses and exploit them not to injure me, but to make me better. She would also have an insatiable intellectual curiosity and big b**bs. But in all seriousness, I don’t know that we need to have the perfect woman to qualify as marriage material. I know I don’t. All I need is that person who makes the concept of being with anyone else an exercise in idiocy.”
3. You accept without reservation.
“Total acceptance for who you are both the good and bad.”

4. You laugh.
“A sense of humor. That’s the most important thing a woman a can have if I were to want to marry her. Of course I’d want her to be kind, genuine, adventurous and someone with whom I’d like to share my life but above all is sense of humor. Laughing and loving together is what makes a long-lasting relationship.”

5. You can cook.
“I know this is going to come off sexist, but it isn’t. I swear. That being said, wife material for me is a woman who can cook and cook well, like French pastry type well. Not because I want her in the kitchen but because I can’t cook to save my life but eating is a passion of mine. If her passion is to cook and mine is to eat then we can’t lose. I’d like to say once again that this isn’t me giving into gender stereotypes. Cooking and eating together is sexy. I guess I’m a regular old George Costanza.”

6. You challenge him.
“She has to challenge me to be my best self. That’s my main qualification. Also, I can’t marry someone who isn’t funny.”

7. You’re affectionate.
“Looking at my parents’ marriage there wasn’t as much emotional support as I think my mother needed from my dad. They fought too often and I never saw them, not once, show any sort of affection toward each other. Because of that, a woman who is affectionate and loving is someone with whom I want to grow old with. I don’t ever want my kids to wonder why mom and dad never hugged, kissed, or cuddled, like I always wondered. I want them to know we love each other and they were born from that love.”

8. You have your own life.
“In my mind, a woman with her own life is probably the coolest one to marry. And by ‘her own life’ I mean: her own career, her own set of friends, her own independent streak, her own dreams, and her own bunch of at least 15-20 vinyl records. This would certainly be a fair thing for a woman to want in a potential husband too, by the way.”

9. You don’t publicly embarrass.
“She doesn’t punk you in public in general but particularly in front of your friends. Bust chops? Okay. Disagree? Sure. Argue? Maybe. But if she’s wife material she’ll keep anything demeaning or embarrassing private.”

10. You love your past mistakes.
“I know this is cliché, but wife material for me is someone who loves the worst in me and is OK with all my screw-ups. I’ve made a lot of mistakes along the way and have my fair share of regrets, so if she can love that stuff and not hold it against me, then I’d call that wife material.”

11. You are considerate.
“‘Wife material’ indicators can range from doing the wallet dance (thanks, but we’ll pay) or something sweet like making our bed after a sleepover. It’s so simple, but speaks to a level of consideration you don’t always get in some people who might feel a little too entitled to your chivalry.”
source: yourtango.com

Effective Tips To Get Rid Of Facial Fat In No Time

#1. Curb the calories
Cutting down on your calorie intake by 500 to 1000 calories everyday, will help you lose one to two pounds weekly. Gradually attenuating the proportion of meals and taking six small meals a day is the right way to chalk out your diet. Junk foods are high in sodium content and therefore are a strict no-no, as salt tends to retain water in your body, thus giving it a bloated appearance

#2. Plan the right diet
A diet rich in calcium and protein can help burn calories faster. Calcium helps in flushing out the extra water in your body, thereby, reducing the puffiness. For ensuring you are having enough of calcium, incorporate broccoli, leafy vegetables, beans, oranges, dry fruits, herbs and the likes in your diet. Protein is equally important and hence, supplementing one carbohydrate serving with protein rich food such as fish, egg whites, lean meats or tofu will help cut down on your carbohydrate intake while reducing your appetite as well.

#3. Drink lots of water
Are you having sufficient water that your body demands? If looking at your appearance in the mirror makes you frown at your puffy face or double chin, chances are you are having less water than is needed by your body. Drinking less water leads to a dehydrated body, which then tries to absorb the additional moisture in your body leading to a bloated appearance. Therefore, make it a routine of having 8 to 10 glasses of water every day

#4. Incorporate good fats
Who said all fats are harmful? Replace your cheesy pizzas with fish like mackerel, salmon, tuna and nuts, which are rich in omega 3 and fatty acids. Healthy fats help you get rid of the excess fat easily.

#5. Quit smoking and alcohol
Smoking causes your skin to sag while alcohol leads to dehydration and consequent bloating. Hence, quitting smoking and decreasing alcohol intake is a sure way to burn down those layers of fat on your face.

#6. Exercise
Nothing works better than performing simple exercises at home. One such exercise to reduce your chubby cheeks is Cheek Puff exercise where you require holding as much air as possible in your cheeks and then pushing it towards each of the cheeks, every time holding it for five seconds. To reduce double chin, exercises like Tennis Ball Squeeze involving pressing a ball between your chin and chest for a few seconds, Neck Flexion and Isometric exercises work wonders.
source: bollywoodshaadis.com

During My Playing Days, I Used Juju – Taribo

The ex-footballer turned pastor said he had a manager from Senegal and his manager would take him to several native doctors in Senegal where they will cut his tongue, hands and legs and then cook it.
“I spend most of my time at home meditating. All I want to do is to keep spreading the gospel. In my own little way, I have been into evangelisation visiting places like Ughelli and within the Orile community, Ajegunle and so on. God has been kind during these visits to preach the gospel to people who are yet to receive Christ. We believe He will take us global very soon,” Taribo said.
It will be recalled that Super Eagles attacker, Brown Ideye came out and advised African players to stop using juju to enhance their playing prowess.
“Your background experience counts. We turn to God to give us direction. I’m happy how far He has taken us.
“The gospel is for the poor, rich and noble. Part of the gift God gave me is to reach out to the downtrodden. It is good if you can reach out to the downtrodden, preach the gospel to them and try to meet some of their needs through humanitarian services. I’m grateful to God for using me to spread the gospel across to these people,” he said.
On getting to Europe, Taribo would find himself entangled in another life of charms and superstitious beliefs.
A move from Auxerre to Milan saw him playing for rivals AC and Inter — one of few players to achieve the feat — in a three-year stint in Italy.
With a new-found life of affluence, the big defender paid huge sums of money for him to be supplied charms to win games, protect him from career-threatening injuries and also to be foretold the results of matches before they were played.
The 1998 UEFA Cup winner used to burn candles and hold a magical stone from Israel before games but he is bewildered that people are reluctant to publicly identify themselves with the practice, saying players and officials are deeply involved in the act.
Taribo said, “Of course yes (I was involved). I don’t know why people decline to talk about their involvement with charms. Football has to do with a lot of powers. When there are big events, you look at the stadium, you see people, fans invoking all kinds of things; magicians are there, voodooists are there.
“In my playing days, when I was ignorant, I used to get some mallams and babalawos (traditional doctors) to make charms for us, which we took to (national) camp. Sometimes it worked, sometimes it didn’t.
“In some clubs, before every game, the president or leader of the club will give you a lucky charm to play with. They will tell you to put it in your boots or socks and play. It’s their superstitious belief; that it can help them win matches.
“There are some coaches who are connected to African magicians and soothsayers from Senegal, Burkina Faso, Zaire or even Nigeria. These people are consulted to give these coaches results of games even before the matches are played.
“These people see strange things and they can tell you with their magic and charms, what the outcome of a match will be. People believe and use it. It works for those who believe in it. I saw it, I experienced it, I was with players that used it and I used it. So, why are people denying it? There are charms and rituals in football. It still exists.”
When Patience Ikemefuna, an evangelist who lives in America paid Taribo a visit in Milan, it marked a new phase in the 1996 Olympic Games gold medallist’s life.
Ikemefuna was perplexed when she discovered that Taribo was deeply involved in occultism. There were charms in his wardrobe and other parts of his apartment. Even though her host resisted initially, she convinced him and after several praying sessions, Taribo gave his life to Christ.
Today, even though they are not biologically related, he refers to Ikemefuna as “my sister.”
“God used her to change my life and ever since, my life has never been the same. I’m grateful to her. When I had an encounter with God and I became born again, I discovered that these powers were powerless. It was an avenue to collect money from us. There are lots of voodoo practices in football. If you are not with God, you have to be with the devil; with the devil they come with everything,” he added.
What is the difference between life in Christ and one filled with charms?
“You can’t compare,” he said. “When I was living that ignorant life, I was in darkness. In the darkness, the devil can give you what God can also give you, but he will give you without joy and peace. Eventually, you will end up in sorrow. But when you experience the joy of Christ, it adds no sorrow.
“The joy of the Lord is not only my strength; it gives me everything I need in life. The love of Christ comes with freedom, success, favour, expansion and a better life. When you have all these, you have everlasting peace. That is why I am comfortable today and I’m happy how God has seen me thus far.”
But being a pastor doesn’t mean he is free from temptations. In fact he realises that there are even tougher battles to fight as a cleric.
“Temptation is permanent; it’s there every hour, every day but if you begin to study the Bible, there are principles that God has laid down for us. If you follow this, the devil will not keep you.
“From my house to the bus stop, I may see a young girl not properly brought up, dressed half- Unclad walking on the streets. You will see temptation right there. But you have to pray for God’s grace to overcome the temptation.”
After a career that has seen him play football in Nigeria, France, Italy, England, Germany, Yugoslavia, UAE and Iran, Taribo has seen it all and aptly names his church a shelter.
He added, “We told ourselves to fast and ask God for a name for the ministry. In the process, a sister came up and said a voice told her that we should call the ministry Shelter in The Storm Miracle Ministries. That’s how we got the name.
“During my journeys, God created a shelter for me and transferred me into that fold. There are lots of natural disasters everywhere in the world in these last days. There are crisis in Asia; there is terrorism and sectarian groups springing up. People are migrating from all over the world to Europe because of fear. In the midst of all these, God has created for everyone a shelter, where everything in your life will be restored again.”
Even though he is no longer actively involved in the game, which gave him the good life and saw him resident in some of the world’s biggest cities, the Super Eagles — with whom he played two World Cups and two Africa Cup of Nations — is still very dear to Pastor Taribo West.
“We need to pray for the team and I have taken it as an assignment to pray for the team. The national team is part of my body, it’s my family.”
Source: Real World of Sport

Ladies! few Reasons Your v**ina Itches

V*GINAL YEAST INFECTION
This is the most common cause of v*ginal itching. These infections are so common that three-fourths of women will get one at some point. When the V*gina loses acidity, yeast can build up on the vu.lva, causing an infection. The hallmark symptom is extreme itchiness, along with an odorless thick, white discharge.

IRRITATION/ ALLERGIES
Another common cause of v*ginal itching is irritation. Exposing your v*gina to various chemicals could cause irritation which could make your v*gina itch. Chemicals from soaps, feminine sprays, and even certain fabrics can cause irritation.

STDs
S3xually transmitted infections caused by a parasite called Trichomonas v*ginalis can also cause itching around the vulvar region.

SHAVING DISASTER
When you shave down there, it may feel smooth in the moment but it becomes a disaster as soon as the hair starts growing back. This may not be common to every woman, but for those who react to this, a shaving cream might be a better option.

MENOPAUSE
When you have reach a menopause, your estrogen level reduces and your v*gina change along with your changing hormones. A drop in estrogen can thin the mucosal lining in your v*gina which in turn causes v*gina itching.
Whatever be the case, make sure you get tested and fix that v*gina itching today!!!

Few Reasons why Marriages Fail

1. Speaking negatively to (or about) your spouse
When couples start nagging or insulting each other or complaining to their friends about their spouse, they’ve put themselves on the fast track to divorce. The tone of your words will set the tone of your marriage.

2. Taking on a Win/Lose mindset
Couples in trouble tend to see every disagreement with their spouse as a fight where there will be a “winner” and a “loser.” Healthy marriages recognize that a husband and wife are united and will always share the same fate, so in every disagreement, they will either win together or lose together, so they work together to find a solution where they can both win.

3. Confiding in a “friend” of the opposite s*x
Once you find yourself having a conversation or sending a text message that you hope your spouse doesn’t find out about, you’ve stepped way out of bounds. Most affairs start as “friendships” that cross the line.

4. Surrounding yourself with negative voices
People who choose divorce usually have friends who celebrate the “pursuit of happiness” even at the expense of your marriage and family. Surround yourself with people who love you, love your spouse and love God and their influence and wisdom will lead you in a better direction.

5. Basing your choices on your feelings instead of your commitments
Our culture seems obsessed with Hollywood love stories and movies based on the feelings of love. This creates a huge problem, because our feelings are fickle (which is why most Hollywood marriages fail). A strong marriage is built on commitments, not feelings. If you make your choices based on commitments, your feelings usually have a way of catching up eventually.

6. Starting off the wrong way
So many marriage problems could have been prevented before the marriage even started. If you’re reading this and you’re not yet married, please commit to starting your marriage off the right way.

7. Giving up
The couples who make it aren’t the ones who never had a reason to get divorced; they are simply the ones who decide that their commitment to each other is always going to be bigger than their differences and flaws.

10 Ways You Are Unintentionally Keeping Yourself From Happiness

1. Not getting enough sleep
 you’re probably not only tired all the time, you’re also less happy. Time Magazine cited a sleep study quoted in Po Bronson and Ashley Merryman’s book “NurtureShock,” which found that “sleep deprivation hits the hippocampus harder than the amygdala. The result is that sleep-deprived people fail to recall pleasant memories, yet recall gloomy memories just fine.”
To illustrate this, they described an experiment in which college students getting too little sleep were asked to memorize a list of words.

2. Letting yourself get too hungry
It’s funny that something as simple as hunger could affect our happiness so profoundly, but it’s one of those basic needs that must be met in order for you to function effectively. Simple things like skipping breakfast, stress eating and snacking on junk food affect your health, which in turn affect your ability to feel content. So the next time you find you just can’t feel happy, check your diet, then go from there.

3. Spending too little time with family and friends
Money isn’t everything, at least according to an article published in the Journal of Socio-Economics. Actual changes in income, on the other hand, buy very little happiness.”
So don’t forget to prioritize your social interactions in conjunction with career and education aspirations. Otherwise, you may not find the happiness and satisfaction you’ve been looking for.

4. Being unwilling to ‘fake it’
You’ve heard about “fake it until you make it,” but have you ever actually tried it? It might feel contradictory that putting on a false smile and trying to be positive when you feel your most negative should make a difference, but it does. After a while, if you’re really trying to “fake it,” you’ll forget the effort is fake and your happiness will become real. You’ll be focusing on all the positive things, trying to make your smile more sincere, and suddenly, it will be. Try it the next time you’re having a down day.

5. Nagging your significant other
If you have a bad habit of nagging, it could be time to check yourself before you speak and try to cut back. Realsimple.com blogger Gretchen Rubin conducted a year-long “Happiness Project” trying out all the happiness advice given by experts. One strategy she found especially effective was to stop nagging her husband so much.
“I got a surprisingly big happiness boost from quitting nagging,” Gretchen said. “I hadn’t realized how shrewish and angry I had felt as a result of speaking like that.” Instead of constantly reminding her husband of everything she wanted him to do, she used wordless hints or short phrases so she wouldn’t be tempted to talk on and on or else she did the task herself if it was quick or within her ability to do so.

6. Thinking too much about yourself
You might have noticed that the times you feel the most miserable are the times when you’re focusing the most on yourself. Anyone can get depressed thinking too hard about all the trials and stresses in his or her life (and we all have more than enough to wear down the most cheerful of dispositions).
The solution is all about extend forgiveness. Try to stop thinking so much about what’s going wrong in your life and instead figure out what you can do to serve someone who is also having a rough time. Your service won’t just brighten their day, it will release you from your own thought prison that was keeping your happiness at bay.

7. Commuting too far for work
Anyone with a long work commute knows of the misery that driving during rush hour can inflict. And yet in order to build a new house or get more home for their buck, homeowners will often submit to a longer commute in order to get the house they want.
In the long run, however, the pleasure of a larger or nicer house might be outweighed by the negative weight of the commute. Artofmanliness.com explains, “Commuting is simply unpleasant; it lessens your time with your family, costs money and stresses you out. And not only is it unpleasant for the commuter, it diminishes the happiness of his partner as well.”
And it isn’t the kind of stress you can ever get used to because it’s different every day, unlike other types of unpleasantness which you can simply acclimate to. So weigh your options carefully when trading a longer commute for more square footage.

8. Relying too much on your own strength
Have you ever noticed that in comic books and movies, superheroes never work entirely alone? If they try, they inevitably meet their downfall and must be rescued by some sidekick or citizen or other. Whether you’re a superhero or not (and we are all the superheroes of our own lives), you can’t expect to solve every one of life’s problems yourself.
When you feel overwhelmed, don’t feel ashamed to turn to others for assistance. There will always be friends, family members and sometimes complete strangers who will be willing to help you out. Belief in a higher power is also often comforting and uplifting to those for whom earthly help has failed. extend forgiveness is never a sign of weakness; it’s a sign of strength — you realize your own limitations and have the maturity to ask for help from the one being who is always there to serve and heal you.

9. Waiting for happiness
Stop waiting for that big raise, the promotion or the relationship that you think is going to finally make you happy. Happiness isn’t some goal you attain sometime in the future, it’s a choice you make each day of your life. You don’t have to hope you’ll be happy “someday,” you can be happy whenever you want. Don’t wait for someone else’s permission, a due date or a finish line. Be happy now, because that’s what life is all about.

10. Being unwilling to forgive
Have you ever nursed a grievance against someone who has wronged you? It’s like keeping an open wound. If you bandage a cut and then leave it alone, over time it will heal. But if you are constantly picking at it, it might become sore, infected and eventually leave a more prominent scar than it would have in the first place.
That’s what it’s like when you don’t extend forgiveness to others; you don’t allow your hurt to heal and it starts to eat at you, affecting you negatively even when you’re at your happiest. Even holding on to small things — like a neighbor who never cleans up after his dog visits your front lawn, or a relative who persistently pokes her nose into your business — can weigh you down. Another thing about resentment: It only hurts you. It doesn’t hurt the person you haven’t
Don’t allow someone else’s actions to dictate the conditions of your happiness. Forgive as quickly as you can, and move on.
source: familyshare.com

How To Repair Your Relationship After Messing Up BIG TIME

Your relationship broke up. Maybe you lied or cheated. No matter what happened, getting your ex to forgive you is a little bit of work. But listen, it’s not completely impossible.
First, a warning, however. Your ex’s forgiveness is never guaranteed. You might never get your ex to completely forgive you. What I can offer is a roadmap. And hopefully the roadmap will lead you to forgiveness and a second chance.

1. Decide what you really want.
Sometimes all of this striving won’t really get you the kind of relationship that you want in the end. It’s important to take a step back and think about whether it’s your ex who you miss or it’s the act of being in a relationship with them that’s really bothering you. You can do everything under the sun to get your ex back, but if your relationship with them isn’t right in the first place, it’s a huge waste of time and energy.
Once you get clear on this, and it’s your ex who you indeed miss, proceed.

2. Take complete responsibility for your part and apologize sincerely.
So often we think that providing a genuine apology is a weakness, when really it’s the first step in getting things between the two of you to where they’re good again. Think of your sincere apology as opening the door and clearing the way to a better future between the two of you.
One caveat. You can’t apologize sloppily. What do I mean by sloppily?
“Oh my goodness dear, wonderful ex, I’m the most wrong person in the history of wrongness, and everything I ever did was for us and I somehow lost my path. I love you now and forever, please forgive me. I’m sorry, I’m sorry, I’m sorry.”
There are a few problems with this. It comes off ultra pathetic, and it’s clear that you’re trying to get something from your ex. Now, you ARE trying to get something from them (their forgiveness) but they can’t lose respect for you during your apology! This is better:
“I wanted to let you know that I’m really sorry for (whatever I did). It wasn’t the right thing to do or fair to you. You deserve better. I’m sorry.”
This is better for several reasons. First, it’s crystal clear exactly what you’re apologizing for. You aren’t groveling for the entire history of your relationship or making yourself look like a pathetic, sappy mess. You’re also recognizing and taking responsibility for the hurt that you caused them. Get in, get it done, get out.
3. Accept that they might punish you for a while.
Sometimes we hope that we’ll say the magic apology and our ex will immediately jump back into our arms, ready to forget about everything that happened. Unfortunately, this seldom happens. Depending on what you did, your ex is possibly still angry with you and will have a difficult time treating you the way you wish they would treat you.
Now, I never advocate letting anyone abuse you, and it’s up to you to decide how much of an emotional beating you’re willing to take. However, happy times might not happen again right away, and you’ve got to let them work through the anger and hurt, even after your sincere apology. That leads me to my next point.
4. Give them time and space to forgive you.
Knowing that they’re still upset or hurt can make us feel guilty and bad in our ex’s presence. We yearn for things between us to go back to how they once were, and we just want to get the whole process over with so things are happy again.
The problem is that often we want all of this way too soon. It can take a long time for someone to feel better around you, and you have to recognize this when looking for forgiveness. Let them process their feelings and give them some space to do it.
5. Avoid becoming defensive.
It’s up to you to maintain a clear head in the face of whatever they might toss your way.
Avoid the temptation to roll into an emotional ball, re-apologize, or launch into more explanations for your behavior. Stay calm, accept that they’re still emotional about what happened, and make them feel heard.
A good statement like “I completely understand why you’re upset about that,” works well. Let them get it out, and then gently move the conversation on or remove yourself from it. You listing the 24 reasons why you did what you did and apologizing profusely YET AGAIN will just add fuel to the fire. Instead, keep your eye on your real end goal — a harmonious relationship with your ex. Getting defensive and fighting doesn’t accomplish that goal.
I realize it’s hard when you feel like they’re attacking you, but it’s so important that you avoid saying something that you know will devastate them. Don’t fight back. Stay cool.
6. Continue trying to make it fun, even though it’s not fun right now.
The biggest mistake that people make with their exes is that they let negative patterns continue while they’re trying to get their ex back. What I mean is that instead of using their actions to remind their ex how amazing things were in the beginning of their relationship, they go back in and rehash all of the old, negative emotions.
If you really want your ex to forgive you, this is the wrong thing to do because it reinforces the negative pattern between the two of you. If they’re going to forgive you and repair your relationship, breaking that negative cycle is absolutely crucial.

Signs Your Long-Distance Relationship Is In Trouble

Trust is undoubtedly one of the most important parts of a relationship. Especially, when it comes to maintaining a long-distance relationship, it needs more emotional commitment and trust than a regular one. This is one aspect on which many relationships fall flat! The physical distance in many relationships creates an emotional void
Well, we are sure a lot of you who are in such a relationship might have enjoyed both good as well as bad part of it. But, what if all of a sudden you start feeling that your relationship is actually heading towards nowhere? Well, maybe it is coming to an end! And, here are some signs to help you see some hidden dangers in your love-paradise.

#1. Frequent arguments
Every couple fights once in a while, but you can feel a difference when it is not just a normal one. Frequent arguments, especially on matters that never created problems between you before, should trigger an alert in your mind.

#2. Dramatic changes in communication
You may suddenly find your partner talking to you in an unusual manner. He or she need not be outright rude, but it is the indifference that is actually worse. If you find them making too many excuses about not finding time to talk to you, it is time you get a signal.

#3. One-sided effort
Right from the ‘Good morning’ message to that ‘Good night’ call, are you always the first one to make the first move? Your partner is online, but never makes the first attempt to ping or respond to your chat. Well, all these are clear signs of differences in priorities! It is best to talk to your partner about it, because there might be some other reason or a problem that could be troubling them. However, if she/he constantly avoids such discussions, then it may be a signal that your garden is no longer so rosy!

#4. Stopped sharing
If your partner stops sharing things with you, behaves secretive, or stops calling you with those adorable nicknames, then it is time to churn those rational wheels of your mind.

#5. The good friend talk!
If you suddenly find your partner sounding more like ‘just a good friend’ while talking to you, expect something wrong. The journey from good friends to lovers is great, but the journey backwards is miserable.

#6. No more future talks
Another thing that should alert you is a sudden stop to those loveable future talks that you used to have with your partner. If your partner has begun to avoid such talks with you, then may be he or she is no more interested to have a future with you.

#7. More an obligation than wish
This is one question you should ask yourself. Is there a ‘have to’ or ‘should’ that comes in your mind every time you make a call to your partner? There are times when you might not realise, but your actions can move you away from your partner. Talking to the person, we love, can never be like a chore or a part of your daily ‘to-do-list’. When your wish to hear his/her voice becomes an obligation, you better understand that your paradise is in deep trouble!
Finally, believe your instincts. There are times in a long-distance relationship when nothing in particular is wrong, yet you feel that something is not right. Do not avoid such instances. At the same time, you would want to make sure that you are not overreacting. It can be just a bad day, so make sure you read the signs right. And, go for a final conclusion only after a detailed analysis of the situation, and after talking and consulting people close to you and your partner. This will help you to understand your partner’s situation really well and get a clear picture.

Benefits of Wheats and Grains

Wheats and grains are foods that are often advised for a healthy diet. With wheats and grains coming in different forms, it is not that hard to have them in your diet. But why should you bother including them in your diet? Here is what you need to know about these foods.

Wheats

Wheats, particularly whole wheats, are significantly nutritious. Wheat usually contains nutrients such as vitamins B1, B2, B3, and E, calcium, copper, folic acid, fiber, iron, and zinc.

The great thing about wheat is that aside from being nutritious, it is also known for helping people, particularly women, control their weight and improve the digestive process as well as metabolism.

Wheat also prevents various kinds of diseases such as type-2 diabetes, breast cancer, lower the likelihood of childhood asthma, and heart diseases.

Grains

Grains, such as oatmeal and flaxseed, are also extremely beneficial for the body. Grains contain various nutrients such as carbohydrates, fiber, iron, magnesium, protein, selenium, and vitamin B.

Grains can effectively reduce the risk of stroke, type-2 diabetes, heart diseases, and help control weight. Other recent studies also suggest that grains can help reduce the risk of asthma and colorectal cancer, and promote healthier blood pressure levels, gums and teeth.      

Why vegetables should be in your everyday meal -

Vegetables are a part of a healthy diet and not eating them simply won’t do as some nutrients can only be found in them. And as much as some people might despise them, eating vegetables regularly, and even in every meal is encouraged so as to be healthy and stay healthy.

But why should vegetables be a part of your every meal? Vegetables are naturally low in calories, and if it becomes a part of your daily meal, it is a clever way of filling you up without having all those empty calories that a lot of foods today have.

What’s really important about vegetables is that they are a great source of various vitamins and nutrients. The vitamins that you can get from vegetables are A, C, D, E, and B-complex vitamins such as B1, B2, B3, B5, B6, and B12. Vegetables are also great sources of biotin, choline, and folic acid, among many others.

To fully reap the benefits of vegetables, it is recommended that people eat them from different colors, whether it is a dark green of kale, to the bright orange and yellow of peppers; and to have three to five servings of them each day.      

Choosing tea over soda

Sugar filled sodas are often the beverage of choice by people when it comes to eating their meals or having their snacks. While sodas tend be the easier choice because of their wide variety and the ease of which one can have them, they are not necessarily the better option to have. If you are looking for a great substitute for soda, try tea.

Sodas are full of sugar which can lead to weight gain and obesity, and when not careful, it can also lead to type-2 diabetes. In fact, drinking soda can actually lead to making you full, making it easier for a person to lack the nutrients one needs for a healthy body.

Tea on the other hand, though not as potent when it comes to taste, is potent when it comes to its health benefits. Green tea and black tea, for example, are full of antioxidants which can help prevent cell damage caused by oxidation, which can lead to a number of different problems. Some of the problems that tea can prevent are certain types of cancers and heart problems; additionally, tea can also help control your weight and even improve your metabolism.

Trade the super sweet soda with the more natural tea to avoid having health problems and help maintain good health.

One Dead As Building Collapses In Imo

A two-storey building under construction at Okwu Umuoma village in Owerri West Local Government Area, Imo State, on Friday collapsed, killing one of those working on the site.

The incident was said to have occurred after a heavy rain downpour.
According to eyewitness accounts, four workers were still in the building doing their various jobs before the incident, and three of them were fast and lucky enough to escape unhurt, while the last person, simply identified as Ugo, got trapped and killed.
The people of the community, however, blamed poor and substandard materials used for the construction.
The Senior Special Assistant to the Governor, Emma Ibediro, said a quick response has been set up to commence a rescue search for the trapped victim.
Mr. Ibediro, who lamented the incident, said that government will investigate the remote cause of the collapse and called on other builders to always put the safety of the people first, while building and constructing buildings in the state

Fake Prophet Arrested After Luring Woman To Have s*x With Him

One Muyiwa Adesoye, a self-acclaimed prophet, who allegedly deceived a 17-year-old auxiliary nurse in order to have s*x with her, has been arrested and charged before an Ejigbo Magistrates’ Court sitting in Lagos state.
According to reports, Adesoye prophesied to the victim (names withheld) that she had a spiritual husband who usually had s*x with her in the night.
The Ondo-state born ‘prophet’ had also told his victim that her progress was hindered by her spiritual husband, hence, she needed to be delivered through prayers so that her future will be brighter, adding that such prayer and deliverance involved him having s*x with her in order to anoint her private part.
Adesoye, who resides at 35, Adedayo Street, Abaranje in Ikotun area of the state, informed her that she would pay him N25, 000 for him to embark on the prayer and warned her to do so to avoid further threat to her future.
The victim accepted and allegedly paid the money. She reportedly gave him her two phones and a gift.
As the story goes, Adesoye took the young nurse to a hotel located at Abule Odu in Egbeda area, had s*x with her several times and gave her soap to bath with every day, as according to him, the soap was sanctified.
The victim, who claimed she was introduced to Adesoye by her friend, realized she had been swindled and told her parents what happened before the matter was reported to the police at Area ‘M’ Command, Idimu.
The prophet was arrested and charged to court with obtaining s*x, unlawful carnal knowledge under false pretense and stealing under the Criminal Code.
He however, pleadednot guilty.
The presiding Magistrate, Mrs J. O. E. Adeyemi, granted him bail in the sum of N100, 000 with two sureties in like sum, ordering that one of the sureties must be a land owner and show affidavit of earnings.
Adesoye was reportedly remanded in prison custody at Kirikiri pending when he will perfect his bail condition.
Adeyemi adjourned the mater till 21 September, 2015.
Source: Dailypost

Things Men Find Annoying About Women

Now, my dear friends, prepare yourselves, because the worst of it is coming! As you read, treat the exposed information as counsel on how to be better, not as demeaning. Ask yourself, would you put up with yourself if you were your own husband, fiancé, or boyfriend?
So, take a deep breath and read about few things that make men want to disappear, along with what the woman says to do so:

1. The Trouble Makers
Most readers will agree with this one. A man gets easily annoyed when a woman cannot let go of the things she does not like. Men do not like a woman who tries to solve problems by arguing about it in front of everyone.
To onlooker: “What you looking at? Don’t you see that he is got someone already?”

2. The Drama Queens
The dramatic women love to create a storm in a glass of water. Crying helps them seem more convincing.
“That outfit is awful! I’m not going anymore! You can go by yourself, if you like!”

3. The Jealous
Among the worst complaints are against those women who are almost neurotically untrusting.
“Who is that woman in front of us? She’s looked in the rear-view mirror twice now!”

4. The Yellers
You have no clue how annoyed a man gets with shouting.
YOU DON’T EVER LISTEN TO ME! YOU WOULD MUCH RATHER TALK TO YOUR FRIENDS!”

. The Fault Finder
She is the type of woman that finds faults in everything. Nothing is the way she wants it.
“It would have been better had you done it my way.”

6. The Bad-Humored
Are generally straight-faced and smile very little.
“What you laughing at?”

7. The Madonnas
These women do not like the fact that men have freedom of choice. They believe that men do not know how to use their agency well or even that they do not possess the maturity to do so. Generally, they act as if they were his mother.
“You are no longer allowed to use that shirt! It is horrific!”

8. The insecure
These women do not think they are worthy of their companions. They always question themselves about their feelings and the man’s taste in women.
“You think that she’s prettier than me, don’t you? I bet if she looked this way, you would totally go after her and leave me behind.”

9. The indecisive
Single boys have a lot to say about this attitude. They show interest in a girl and she shows interest back, but she soon acts distant. Boys feel very confused with this type of attitude.
Those men that are no longer single also have their own two cents to put in. Not being able to pick which clothes to wear, which place to go, and other similar decisions leaves men impatient and irritated.
“I don’t know, what do you think?”

10. The Subjective
These are the women with the inability to be direct or state what they want. They think that men have a crystal ball attached to their brains. Not only do they hope that the man will guess what they are thinking, they hope that he deciphers the “woman code,” which is given through looks, small gestures, a nose scratch or any other similar signs.
“You just don’t understand me.”

11. The Overly-Attached
Emotionally dependent women are a burden to men. They do not understand that men need to breathe, have some personal time, and demonstrate total dependence on their love. These kinds of women are similar to gum on a shoe.
“You haven’t even left yet and I already miss you!” “Without you, I would die!”

12. The Sloppy
The greatest complainers are married men, since single women don’t usually make this mistake during dating times. Men like having a good-looking woman by their side!
“People need to stop worrying about the small details.”

13. The Digger
Think more about the things that she can obtain by relating with a man, than the type of person he is.
“What year was your car made again?”

14. The Vulgar
Women like to fish for attention at whatever cost, including being revealing in their attire.
“My body is beautiful, so I’ll show it.”

15. The Liars
They do not like to do things openly and do not feel comfortable exposing the truth. They prefer to omit a fact or two to telling the truth.
“I don’t know what you are talking about.”
Well, there you have it, women. These complaints do have a foundation, don’t you think? So, don’t get angry about it. But fight the stereotypes and make a few changes to improve your relationships and yourselves.

Some Things You Should Do If You Want To Lose Weight Fast And Permanently

Motivate Yourself: Whenever a person is undergoing a process that requires patience and time, it is very important that they have a motivation. Everyone’s motive for losing weight is different, but you have to find your own personal reason. Do you simply want to get healthier? Do you have an event you want to look your best for? Do you want to look great for your partner? Do you have health problems that only weight loss could cure? Most times, it is usually more than one motivation, so it is advisable to make a list of what your goals are. This is a list that you alone should see, so be as honest as you can, even on the reasons that might sound silly. Seeing your goals in written form gives you more motivation to want to achieve it. It helps you picture what you want so much better.

Get a scale: You cannot begin a race without knowing where your starting point was. Before you begin your weight loss journey, get yourself a good bathroom weight scale so you can see what you currently weigh. A lot of people do not like to face the truth of how far they have let themselves go, but it is very important to do this so you can track your progress. As you keep weighing yourself and the numbers keep going down, it can serve as the best push you need to keep going. Someday, you will look back at the number you began with and feel nothing but pride at your achievement.

Get rid of the bad stuff: To lose weight, you must get rid of the stuff that is bad for you. Get rid of junk food, sweets and other kinds of food that has no nutritional value whatsoever. A quick scan of the internet or a visit to a doctor will provide you with a list of things to avoid so you can make sure you get the best out of this journey you are about to embark upon.

Exercise: Losing weight is not all about just eating well, you need to exercise too. Granted, it is a fast-paced world we live in, but it is very important that you get in some physical activity. The key to exercising while on the move is to do what you love. If you give yourself an exercise regimen that you hate, it will not only feel like punishment, but you will be even more likely to quit. Choose an activity you love, such as strolling, dancing, swimming, etc, and find a way to do it more often. If you enjoy it, it will be easier to keep at it. Also, incorporate other important tips for getting more exercise out of your daily life, such as taking stairs instead of a lift, walking to and fro your bus-stop instead of taking a bike/bus, doing some stuff on the job while standing as opposed to sitting all day, etc.

Take it slow: Since this is a life change that you hope to keep at for years to come, it is important that you do not rush it. A lot of people who rush into weight loss end up losing a bunch of weight in little time, but they end up gaining it back in the long run, which completely defeats the purpose. So, make sure you take baby steps as you begin this journey. Start with a few minutes of exercise daily before you begin doing hours. Do not suddenly begin starving yourself, just cut down your food intake gradually. It should be noted that crash dieting (when you rush into it with full force) is extremely unhealthy and no doctor advises this.

Remember your goals: The list you made at the beginning of your journey is not for fun. It is so that you can keep going back to it when you feel like giving up. So, every once in a while, take it out, read it, and get yourself in the state of mind you were when you wrote it. It should encourage you to get back on track.

Reward yourself: A weight loss journey does not mean you are under punishment, or on a break from anything fun. Give yourself a (non food-related) treat for time to time. For instance, if you go a week without your favorite sugary drink, or if you were able to lose some weight, you can reward yourself by buying yourself something nice that you will not normally buy. Or if you were able to get down a couple of dress sizes, then you can even get yourself an outfit in your new size so you can revel on how far you have come. Looking forward to rewards like these from time to time helps keep you excited.
When it comes to losing weight and keeping it off, consistency is key. Being healthy is a way of life and not something you should do for a few months and then stop. So make sure you make changes that can be easily incorporated into your daily life.
Source: Naij

Amazing Health Benefits Of Apple Cider Vinegar And Honey

Fewer natural substances get more positive press from newspapers, magazines and social media sites than apple cider vinegar and honey. Even taken alone, each brings some amazing health benefits to the body. Apple cider vinegar is great for digestive health, for instance, and can be used topically to treat a number of skin conditions as various as burns, dandruff or minor cuts and scrapes. Honey has been widely used since the time of the ancient Egyptians for its medicinal properties, and even today it is an important weapon in the modern fight against difficult-to-heal wounds like severe burns or diabetic ulcers. No natural health website is complete without information on these two amazing substances. However, when apple cider vinegar and honey are used in conjunction with one another, their healing powers are intensified and they can support the health of the body in some truly amazing ways.
Reduced inflammation
Not surprisingly, one thing which the combination of honey and apple cider vinegar seems to accomplish in spades is reducing inflammation throughout the body. This helps on two levels. First, it can make the management of chronic inflammation conditions like arthritis or ulcerative colitis easier to achieve. Second, preventing inflammation can help prevent the onset of other serious chronic conditions like diabetes or heart disease.Better digestion
This honey-apple-cider-vinegar combination is a great way to improve digestion and works in several different ways to achieve this. It is great for treating and preventing problems like heartburn, acid reflux and over-acidity in the stomach. It can help treat sluggish bowels and prevent problems like chronic constipation from setting in. It can even support oral health and banish problems like bad breath! It is, in short, a great tonic for the whole digestive system.
Improved heart health
This dynamic duo is also able to improve the health of the heart. Regular consumption of a honey-apple-cider-vinegar mix has been shown to improve cholesterol levels (and more importantly, the ratio between good and bad cholesterol) and also to reduce high blood pressure, which is a major risk factor for heart disease. Indirectly, it also helps promote heart health through weight loss, since obesity is another common cause for cardiac problems.
The takeaway here is that, while apple cider vinegar and honey, just on their own, are great for the health, together they are a truly formidable combination which can prevent and treat a variety of medical problems, many of them chronic and severe. They are readily available in any grocery store and may be lurking in the cupboard or pantry already! Try this combination today and begin reaping all the amazing benefits that go to support long-term health.

10 Foods That Reduce Wrinkles And Keeps The Skin Youthful

 

1.  Salmon
You’re probably already aware that eating salmon is very beneficial to your health, but did you know that it also has tremendous benefits for your skin? The omega-3 fatty acids in salmon help reduce dryness, leaving your skin looking soft, supple and youthfully smooth. You can think of eating salmon as being akin to moisturizing your skin from the inside out. Omega-3 can also help guard your skin against damage from the sun, which is a huge factor in skin aging. In fact, some recent studies suggest that it can even keep skin cancer from growing. Try to eat at least two three-ounce servings of wild salmon per week to keep your skin looking young and healthy; avoid the farm-raised varieties.

2. Avocado
Avocados sometimes get a bad rap for their fat content, but they are actually full of the good type of fat – monounsaturated fat – that helps keep your skin hydrated and boosts the absorption of important vitamins. In addition, it contains a high amount of skin-friendly vitamin E, which is known for its ability to moisturize, protect against UV rays and eliminate free radicals. This creamy fruit also contains a high amount of glutathione, an antioxidant all-star that helps your system flush out toxins and can help ease wrinkles and acne. Best of all, you can fit this delicious fruit into your diet in a number of ways, whether you eat it sliced, add it to a sandwich or salad, or use it as a base for homemade guacamole.
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3. Strawberries
Organic strawberries stand out as a top choice for healthy skin because of their high vitamin C content. This powerful antioxidant boosts collagen production, which helps keep your skin feeling firm and looking smooth. In fact, women who have lower intakes of vitamin C are actually more likely to have lines and wrinkles. Although other foods also contain Vitamin C, one cup of strawberries actually contains as much as 130 percent of the daily value of vitamin C. Eat a handful of organic strawberries every day or add them to some plain organic yogurt so your skin can reap the benefits.

4. Green tea
Proper cell regeneration plays an important role in keeping your skin looking great. On the other hand, mutated cells can lead to a host of undesirable effects, from pesky issues like uneven pigmentation in the skin to more serious problems such as cancer. The antioxidants and EGCG found in green tea can help your cells maintain a healthy life cycle and grow correctly. To make sure you are getting the purest product possible for maximum benefits, skip the packaged tea bags and brew loose leaf green tea yourself. Your skin will thank you!

5. Red peppers
Organic red peppers provide more than just a satisfying crunch – half a cup of chopped red pepper also gives your body more than 100 percent of the daily recommended intake of vitamin C. One of this vitamin’s many great qualities is its ability to fight wrinkles. In fact, a recent UK study involving more than 4,000 women found that those with a higher intake of vitamin C were less prone to dry skin and wrinkles! If you don’t enjoy the taste of this colorful fruit on its own, try dipping it in some homemade hummus.

6. Extra virgin olive oil
The essential fatty acids (EFAs) found in extra-virgin olive oil can do your skin a lot of favors. One of the biggest benefits, according to a study in Lancet Oncology, is its ability to help the skin resist damage from harmful UV rays. EFAs also help cell membranes retain moisture. If you want supple skin, you should consume about a tablespoon of extra virgin olive oil each day, because the human body isn’t able to synthesize EFAs on its own. It’s great on salads or grilled vegetables, or you can drizzle some over sliced avocado for a very skin-friendly and filling snack.(3,5)

7. Blueberries
Organic blueberries get a lot of attention for their “superfood” status, and their special powers even extend to your body’s biggest organ: your skin. Eating just half a cup of blueberries will give you nearly double the amount of antioxidants that the average American consumes in a day. Why do you want more antioxidants? The answer is simple: They help fight the free radicals that harm your skin cells and reduce the amount of collagen in your skin, which makes you much more prone to wrinkles. These polyphenol-rich berries can even help promote cell regeneration for new skin. They are delicious on their own, or you can mix them with other berries to make an antioxidant-rich smoothie.

8. Sweet potatoes
If you only eat sweet potatoes on Thanksgiving, your skin is missing out! Packed with beta-carotene, sweet potatoes help your body produce vitamin A, which protects your skin and increases cell turnover. It is so beneficial for your skin that many commercial skincare products contain retinoids, which are forms of vitamin A. Thankfully, you can skip the toxic chemical-laden products entirely and just bake or roast some sweet potatoes for a hearty side dish that will double as food for your skin.

9. Pomegranates
You can get antioxidants from green tea and even red wine, but one fruit contains even more antioxidants than these with the added bonus of a hearty dose of vitamin C: pomegranates. As if the possibility of reducing your risk of skin cancer weren’t enough reason to seek out this tart, red fruit, the prospect of diminishing the appearance of wrinkles and brightening your skin will certainly send you to your local co-op or farmers’ market in search of organic pomegranate. Don’t skip the seeds – they are full of nutrients your skin will love.

10. Grapes
If you want to fight skin inflammation, look no further than grapes. The resveratrol found in the skin of these plump little fruits can counteract inflammation, and it might even help fight the effects of UV damage. It is also believed to slow the aging process. Organic grapes make for a nice, portable snack that can improve your complexion. Other sources of this useful polyphenol include cocoa powder and peanuts.
As you can see, there is no need to resort to commercial skincare products that are full of toxic chemicals and other potentially harmful ingredients that might help your skin’s appearance but could do more harm than good to the rest of your body. By choosing the right foods, you can give your skin all the nutrients it needs to shed years off of your appearance and give it that youthful glow you desire!

Fitness Mistakes Several Women Make

No matter how much you think you know your fitness regime, there is always a chance that you might not be doing something correctly.
And this is more likely when you exercise unsupervised. Some women work out for months without really gaining any ground when it comes to losing weight. Here are some common mistakes that women make while exercising.

– Don’t get frustrated if you see no results in the first few weeks and stop. Every woman is built differently and what might work for one might not work for another. Hence, be patient. If you’re unsure about it, ask a trainer in your gym, a friend who has knowledge about fitness or check online.
Don’t get frustrated if you see no results in the first few weeks and stop. Every woman is built differently and what might work for one might not work for another. Hence, be patient. If you’re unsure about it, ask a trainer in your gym, a friend who has knowledge about fitness or check online. The internet has a treasure trove of information.

– Don’t hesitate to change your workout regime if it isn’t working for you. By trying out different exercise routines, you won’t just figure out what works for you, you’ll also figure out what you like doing best.


– If you’re just starting to workout or are about to workout after a gap, start slowly. Ease yourself into your routine instead of throwing yourself headlong into it. While your body will feel sore the first couple of days, eventually it will get used to this new regime.


– What you have after your workout is very important. Instead of a cup of coffee, sip on water. And just because you think you’ve burned hundreds of calories, doesn’t mean you can eat high calorie foods. Stick to a simple sandwich post a workout or a cup of yogurt.

– Regularly use the treadmill or the elliptical trainer? Don’t hold on to them while using them — that is a major mistake. These will not help you burn as many calories that you ideally should be burning. And don’t assume that weights will give you unsightly muscles. Ask your trainer to suggest the appropriate weights according to your fitness goal.

– Don’t forget to stretch your body before as well as after your workout. This will ensure that you don’t injure yourself while you exercise.

– Lastly, don’t have unrealistic expectations. Allow yourself time to reach your fitness goal and give yourself a break every now and then.
source: timesofindia.indiatimes.com

Paul Okoye (P-Square) Breaks Down In Tears On Stage In America

One half of the P-Square group, Paul Okoye, broke down in tears on September 5 on stage while performing in Washington D.C.

During P-Square’s first performance of their America and Canada tour, Paul Okoye couldn’t hold back the tears when he remembered his late mother as he and his brother sang their popular hit number ‘Beautiful Onyinye‘.

According to the superstar singer, he cries sometimes when he performs this song.

“Sometimes I cry on stage, especially when singing beautiful onyinye, our late mum’s favorite song …..     I know she’s watching with our dad. Miss u guys….. DC 1 luv” wrote Paul Okoye yesterday (September 6) on his Instagram account. #

He shared a black and white picture of him on stage crying when he performed the song.

Few REAL Reasons Men Dump Ladies!

If you’ve ever had your heart broken, I’m going to give it to you straight. While every breakup happens differently, a lot of guys tend to come up with the same reasons. If we really think about it, it can’t ALWAYS be something that the guys did … can it? Of course, this doesn’t fit every instance of a breakup, and this doesn’t apply to every woman but it does leave us wondering. Check out these ten reasons why he may have broken up with you.

1. Women don’t listen. When a man says something, give him a chance to speak. Listen to what he says. The problem is that sometimes, guys will end up with someone who makes him feel as though he doesn’t know what he’s talking about. We’re not always right, but we do have opinions, and it gets under our skin when we’re made to feel like our opinion doesn’t matter. Who wants to stay with someone like that?

2. Women listen to their friends too much. We understand the need for female friendship. We can go with the girls’ night out deal. But when you start letting your single girlfriends (who constantly run guys off or haven’t dated since antenna TV) get into the business of your relationship, that’s asking for trouble. You want to think that your man has a mind of his own when he’s out with the guys, right? We’re no different. We expect you to talk to your girlfriends, even if it’s about us. Just be careful what you decide to bring back from those conversations.

3. The relationship is NOT a family affair. We’re not trying to take you away from your family. This is a relationship, not a kidnapping. However, if we’re mature enough to leave home and keep what goes on between us just between us, then is it too much to ask of you to do the same? If you tell your mom and your sisters about every single argument and disagreement that we have, then don’t you think that they’re not going to like us very much? Then you’ll wonder why we don’t like going around them, right?

4. We’re not joined at the hip. We don’t have to go every single place that you go, and we don’t expect you to go everywhere with us. That’s what makes our time together special. We each had our own likes and dislikes before we met. You did things alone or with your girls, and that’s fine. Don’t try to drag your man with you if it’s going to be nothing but you and the girls talking. We don’t want to sit and listen to talk about hair, nails, fashion, who’s man is cheating on who, etc. Just shoot us first, if that’s the case.

5. Is this a relationship or a prison sentence? We expect parolees to give an account of where they’ve been almost all the time, and who they’ve been with. Parole officers check to see if the parolees actually report to work. A relationship is supposed to have more trust than that. If a man feels that he’s not being trusted, and he hasn’t done anything deserving of the interrogation process (a la Law And Order), then don’t expect to have him around too much longer. This would apply primarily to someone who has a lot of insecurities.

6. Independence is great — to a point. Call it ego, male insecurity, whatever you like. There’s no getting around the fact that we need to feel that we’re in this for more than just friendship. If you keep telling a man (and showing him, too) that you can do everything on your own, then what do you need him for? As shallow as it may sound, we do have to have our ego fed just a bit (maybe some guys more than others, but I think you get the idea).

7. Being too dependent is not a good thing, either. I know it sounds like we can’t make up our minds between numbers 6 and 7, but there is a balance. It’s like we want a grown woman who can handle her business, but still let us know that there’s a place in her life for us that only we can fill. You’re not a child, and we don’t expect to treat you like one or take care of you like one. If you come to a guy for every single thing,and can’t seem to make up your mind or make decisions … well, one day he make make up his mind and not come back.

8. Don’t you ever have anything nice to say? Yeah, we mess up from time to time (and it may seem that those times run pretty close together). But what about some props? Can’t your man do anything right? I’m not talking about being patronizing or treating him like a first grader keeping his colors inside the lines. Nobody can stand always being criticized. Psychologists call it “positive reinforcement.” Men call it “giving us a break.”

9. There’s no future in the past. We’ve all made mistakes. The thing is to learn from them, not live in them. if your man made a mistake, and you’ve agreed to forgive him for it, then do that. Don’t bring it up and keep beating him over the head with it. If you keep bringing up the past, then be prepared to talk about your man in the past tense, as in “ex.”

10. Maybe his friends won’t be your friends, but don’t dog them out, either. He knew them before he knew you. He knows how they are. If one (or more) of his friends are players, he knows this already. You don’t have to remind him of that. if you keep making negative comments about them, what you’re really doing is showing an insecurity and, in a more subtle way, expressing a lack of trust. If he’s with you and everything is going right then don’t let whatever actions his friends take influence the relationship.
source: yourtango.com

Emeka Ike fired back at Pastor Chris Okotie for the second time.,

In a recent interview with The Cable, veteran Nollywood actor, Emeka Ike fired back at Pastor Chris Okotie for the second time.,
Pastor Okotie blasted the actor through his media aide after the actor called him out for being the devil behind his marriage.
Emeka said: –

 “I think his (Okotie’s) comment is a clear indication that he lacked the evidence to fault my allegation. Is Pastor Okotie well-known and popular as I am? How can he say he will not dignify me with a response? His comment actually confirmed my suspicion that my wife is being manipulated either through blackmail or spiritual enchantment to say she was opting out of her marriage after 12 year..

“For instance, at the last proceeding on the divorce suit, my wife said it in the open court that she was willing to abandon her four children and go out of the marriage. Which woman will say she was abandoning her four children if not under a spell? It is clear to me that Okotie is not a pastor but an anti-christ.”

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