If These Things Are Happening In Your Marriage, Get Help ASAP

So how do you know if your marriage has hit a rough patch or it’s something more serious… requiring professional help? Pay attention for these warning signs.
1. You don’t talk anymore.
Martin Novell, a licensed marriage and family therapist in Los Angeles, urges couples to seek professional help when they aren’t able to talk about their problems.
“When It’s just too frightening to even bring issues up, from s*x to money or even annoying little habits that are being blown out of proportion, a therapist’s job is to help the couple become clear about their issues and to help them understand what they are truly talking about,” Novell explained.
2. Your s*x life is non-existent — or suddenly on fire.
Most feel know that a loss of intimacy signals a problem. While that’s true, a sudden increase in s*x can also be a warning sign.
“If you have not been having regular or passionate s*x and all of a sudden your partner behaves like a courting lover or wants to experiment with new activities that s/he has never expressed an interest in before, it could indicate that he is experiencing feeling of arousal that are not originating from his relationship with you,
3. You can’t let go of the past.
Sidney suggests that it might be a good idea to talk to a professional when there has been a traumatic event in your lives, like the loss of a child or an affair, and one partner cannot seem to forgive or forget. “Whatever the situation, every person processes trauma differently,” she says.
4. You fight about the same things over and over.
“When you see that the same issues are coming up again and again in disagreements, it is a good sign they are not effectively being resolved and the couple is at a ‘sticking point, Getting help ASAP will save “many years of trouble down the road.”
5. It’s always about the money.
Disagreements over money are one of the top reasons couples find themselves in conflict. If your spouse keeps you in the dark about family finances or feels the need to control everything related to money, it’s time to speak up.
, “I want to be aware of our debt, our monthly bills, the balance on our mortgage, how many savings/checking accounts we have, etc but If your spouse objects, it’s time to see a counselor.” .
6. Your parenting styles are nowhere near the same.
Yes, children are a blessing, but they can also add stress to your marriage, especially if the two of you are not a united front. Sidney suggests seeking counseling if you disagree with each other’s parenting styles and frequently argue about how you’re raising your children..”
7. You still love your spouse.
If you still love your spouse, really want to make things work, and haven’t been successful, then consider finding a counselor.